If you are unable to accept joint custody or decide by mutual agreement what are the most appropriate living conditions for your child, the courts will rule on your behalf. Most parents want to avoid going to court, but similarly, most parents will find separation or divorce a stressful and often relentless time. While you may be very unhappy with your partner as a husband or wife, try to separate that from them as a parent. While the courts have provided some insight into the factors that have been considered in the establishment of joint child care and control, we may have to wait for other cases to get a more definitive answer. First, common parenting goes beyond the time each parent spends with their children. This should mean that the child spends a significant part of their time with each parent. However, this does not mean that a fixed or fixed share of parental leave is allocated to each parent, let alone that the child`s time is divided equally between both parents in all cases. Unlike others, it becomes explicit that both parents must share this role. Cooperation should be seriously sought, and equality is a desirable long-term goal, but “common parenting” covers these characteristics and more. In the past, English courts were reluctant to make arrangements for joint care and sometimes they are always in the mind of a child who lives with one parent and is in contact with the other, while both parents do share care.
Thus, before April 2014, we saw joint residence orders with provisions relating to “contact” with the father. However, more and more parents are accepting shared care and the courts are now more inclined to order it through the appropriate regulation of children. 4) That special days – e.g. Christmas or other public holidays, birthdays of children and their siblings – be shared equally when parents cannot be together for them. That children can also be with the parent concerned for days that are special for that parent – for example their birthdays and those of their grandparents – or for other important holidays and events. For example, “Take your child to work”, sporting events (for both children and parents), Mother`s Day with their mothers and Father`s Day with their fathers. A “joint care agreement”, which aims to share time 50/50 between parents, is unusual, but it is becoming more and more frequent. The court will always come from the starting point that it is in the best interests of the child to have the active participation of both parents in their lives. However, how this regime will work in practice must be part of the broader assessment.
Good communication between parents is necessary so that a regular sharing of time works in practice and the child can pass smoothly between his parents. For a child to have to live his life between two houses, it takes the organization and willingness of both parents to make it work. There will be the forgotten books at the other`s house at home and the friend`s birthday party, which means that the normal layout must be removed. These daily problems require constant communication and the impact on the child must be carefully considered in case of a bad relationship between the parents. This issue was considered by Russell J in F v L (Permission to Relocation: Appeal)  EWHC 1377 (Fam) during the hearing of the mother`s appeal against a decision rejecting her application for a departure permit and giving the father an order for joint custody of child arrangements. Russell J noted that the trial judge`s approach to allocating the child`s time was “undifferentiated, too simple” and that decisions on joint care were too often made to comply with the presumption of parental involvement. . .